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When I was in my 20s I went to a financial adviser. He told that it was a waste of his time to sit down with me and do a financial plan as I’ll get married and have kids and it won’t matter. A waste of his time - he repeated that several times. I left his office feeling shamed and not enough. I didn’t realise at the time that was his shame to carry - not mine!

Recently, I mentioned this experience to my aunt. She recounted a similar story.

I’m sure there are more women out there who have experienced the same. Anecdotal evidence gathered over a few decades, also tells me that at (most) times, women may receive different (read less than) advice than men.

A decade or so ago, a financial planner was recommended to me by a female colleague. My shame resurfaced at being “rejected” previously. After talking with her, she assured me the same wouldn’t happen again. She was right. I’ve received great service from the (male) financial adviser and his team (both and female) and are still with them today and planning the next stage of my life.

Maybe we (women) haven’t reached out because of prior rejection, a feeling that the service we will receive is subpar / not taken seriously (so why bother), or we don’t know how to show up (how to find a great advisor, what questions to ask and what to demand as an outcome).

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